Divorce is tough on everyone, but it can be especially hard on kids. Unfortunately, many children who experience their parents splitting up also witness violence at home. This combination creates toxic stress , a serious problem that can affect their brains and bodies for years to come. Why is this so bad?  Think of stress as a fire alarm. A little stress helps us react when we need to. But when the alarm keeps ringing for a long time, it starts to damage the system. Kids experiencing divorce and violence often live in a constant state of "fire alarm" – their bodies are flooded with stress hormones. This can actually change how their brains develop, making it harder to handle stress later in life. The Science Says It's Real:  Research shows that kids exposed to violence and parental separation have higher levels of stress hormones like cortisol. This can disrupt their nervous system, heart, and even their immune system. Essentially, their bodies are under constant attack. What Can We Do?  It's crucial to understand the impact of stress on these children. When parents are going through a divorce, especially when there's been violence, we need to consider how custody and visitation arrangements can minimize stress. Creating safe and stable environments is vital for their well-being. The Good News:  Healthy relationships can act as a buffer against stress. Strong connections with caring adults can help kids build resilience and develop healthy brains. What Can You Do? Be Aware: If you know a child going through a tough divorce, be extra supportive. Create Stability: Help create a predictable and safe environment. Encourage Healthy Relationships: Connect them with trusted adults who can provide support. Seek Professional Help: If you're concerned about a child's stress levels, talk to a therapist or counselor. Divorce is hard, but it doesn't have to ruin a child's future. By understanding the impact of toxic stress and taking steps to create a supportive environment, we can help these kids thrive.

Many people save up, plan, and look forward to vacations and travel when they can throughout their lifetime, however rarely do we consider the psychological benefits of traveling to the point where it can be considered even necessary for our overall health. Beyond just the break from our jobs and everyday stressors of life, here are a few Benefits to your Mental Health from travel:   1. It can help you stay fit and healthy Physical exercise is known to improve mental wellbeing, and travel offers ample opportunity to get active. Whether you enjoy pounding the pavement on a city break, swimming in the sea or summiting mountain peaks , getting to know a new destination by embracing the great outdoors can boost energy levels and improve your mood. Immersing yourself in and connecting with nature is another key way to reduce symptoms of stress, anxiety and depression – and while you can do this anywhere (even in cities), it makes sense to incorporate a little ecotherapy into your travels too. 2. It shakes up the status quo Whether you venture abroad or simply to the next town over, taking a break from your usual routines with a trip away from home can help break negative cycles, get you out of a rut and reveal a world of possibilities beyond your bubble. 'When I'm in a period of depression, getting out of the house and out of negative routines (for me, wallowing on the couch and eating junk food) can help to clear my head and give me the space to properly consider the things my brain is telling me,' says David Owen , YA author and former travel editor. 'Going somewhere completely outside of my usual sphere, be that close to home or abroad, can be an effective way of gaining both literal and metaphorical distance. If nothing else, I have interesting stuff to go and look at and do as a distraction!' 3. It gives you a different perspective Experiencing different cultures can open your eyes to new ways of living. Something as simple as learning a new recipe or changing the way you spend your downtime can have a dramatic effect on your wellbeing. Travel can lead you to question and challenge the norms of everyday life at home, potentially inspiring you to make positive changes. 4. It increases creativity It’s been scientifically proven that new experiences – particularly ones that allow you to immerse yourself in a different culture – improve the neuroplasticity of your brain, increasing creativity in the process. After a stint of grief-induced agoraphobia, Erica Buist traveled around the world to take part in seven festivals for the dead – and wrote a book about it. 'I helped build an altar for the dead in Mexico , danced in a parade in Nepal , learned enough Japanese to get by in Kyoto  and in Madagascar , I got hit in the head by a corpse (it was on the shoulders of its dancing descendants)', she says. 'Every now and again I feel a shadow of not wanting to leave the house, but after all the experiences I’ve had, it’s hard to doubt my ability to get to the shops. Travel is stressful, even when it’s wonderful, and now when things go south it's almost like the travel I've done is a benchmark I know I can get back to.’ 5. It lowers stress levels Sometimes all your body and mind need is a rest – and where better to chill out than on a sun lounger somewhere warm? Sunshine is a great stress-buster, giving you a dose of mood-boosting vitamin D and increasing the brain’s release of serotonin, the so-called ‘happy hormone’. Leaving work stress and the everyday routine behind in exchange for afternoon naps, leisurely walks and the freedom to make your own schedule can do your mental health the world of good. Spending time away with friends and loved ones can add to the feel-good factor, while solo travel can refresh your sense of independence. 6. It boosts self-esteem and confidence Travel isn’t always swaying palms and spa days. It can also mean navigating crowds in excessive heat, getting lost, struggling with language barriers or culture shock – all of which is extra challenging if you’re prone to feeling down or anxious. Claire and Laura from Twins that Travel  have found that dealing with travel stress has helped them cope in their everyday lives. ‘For us, travel has become an unlikely form of therapy for our anxiety. By keeping our worlds "big", travel gives context to the smaller tasks in life that can often feel overwhelming when you suffer with anxiety. For example, the elation of stepping off a plane after getting ourselves to the other side of the world makes completing a short train journey seem easily achievable. Travel continues to keep our lives open and fulfilled, which in turn, leads to better mental health.’ 7. It’s an act of self-care When you’re feeling low, it’s easy to feel guilty or undeserving of nice things. But treating yourself to a trip – whether it’s a staycation or far-flung getaway – can be an empowering act of self-care. ‘Of course, anxiety and depression can make traveling difficult. Anxiety makes me worry about doing it, and depression both saps my energy to organize it and tells me I'm not worth the effort,’ says David. ‘Planning a trip can be a good way to push through that and show yourself some love or give yourself some purpose.’ As well as the focus and excitement travel planning can bring, travel itself grants you the freedom to do what you love, take time to rest and practice living in the moment. To this end, for many people, travel is not simply an enjoyable pastime, but an essential part of fostering a healthy, positive mindset. Explore some opportunities today! Along with these benefits travel also serves as a stress reliever, reconnects to self-development, and build resiliency, allowing you more opportunity to recover and heal quicker than otherwise would. If you could go anywhere, where would you go?

Submitted by Kaeley Pollock, clinical student intern You’re not alone. Our environments can heavily interact and influence our well-being. This includes mental health: many people experience feeling overwhelmed or triggered by politics. This can lead to increased stress, feelings of despair, and conflicts within relationships. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, please contact 911 or 988, the national suicide hotline. Whether you are actively engaging in political conversations or not, the influence that politics has on our lives is unavoidable. There is often a bombardment of information to decipher between social media, news outlets, and daily interactions with others. The climate of the political world is uniquely divisive at this point, with polarizing opinions that can take a toll on anyone. Political decisions also have a direct impact on socioeconomic factors in our lives: finances, employment, housing, and feeling a sense of safety. There is no shame in recognizing that these experiences may be having a negative impact on your well-being. How are you being impacted? 1. Stress – it is not uncommon to experience heightened levels of stress during tense political times. There are conflicts on personal levels as well as grand societal disagreements. If you have been feeling more tense, easily irritable, or exhausted, you may be experiencing high levels of stress. a. Stress can influence our quality and quantity of sleep. You may find yourself having trouble falling asleep, due to racing thoughts or not being able to “shut your brain down”. b. Additionally, stress and anxiety are connected but not in and of themselves the same. Increased stress may lead to feelings of anxiety, or increase levels of preexisting anxiety. 2. Effects on relationships – at any level of relationship (family, friends, romantic) politics can be a touchy subject. Sometimes people choose to avoid these topics all together, but other times they are addressed head-on. If you are experiencing conflict, an increase in emotion/emotional response, or discomfort in your existing relationships, you are having a normal human experience. When these effects on your relationships get to the point of causing distress, you should consider reaching out to safe people in your life or speaking to a professional who can help you navigate your feelings and identify changes that may need to be made. 3. Safety – with major changes happening in the world around us, it may have you questioning your sense of safety at times. Decisions are being made that directly affect us and our loved ones, which gives us a lot to think (and often worry) about. Feeling safe is one of our basic needs as humans, so finding ways to provide ourselves with a sense of safety can be crucial during tense times. a. At-risk or vulnerable populations (emerging adults, senior citizens, people with disabilities/chronic health concerns), and marginalized communities (people of color, LGBTQ+ populations, those with ethnically diverse backgrounds) may be at a heightened risk of feeling unsafe. b. Safety within our social circles is also something to consider. Communities of any scale (state, city, town, work, family) where you hold a minority opinion may begin to feel unsafe or unwelcoming. 4. Socioeconomic factors – there is a widely accepted understanding that our environment influences our well-being. The social determinants of health have a direct impact on our mental health. Those influences (income, job security, housing, daily cost of living) are being impacted by political decisions we have little or no control over. In these situations, It is crucial to consider what we can control versus what we can’t control. Focusing on what social determinants of health we are able to change and maintain may be beneficial when so much else is up in the air. What can you do? Influx of information: Hearing, seeing, or talking about politics is somewhat unavoidable in today’s world. From social media to contradictory news outlets, it can become overwhelming. Limiting the amount and the manner in which you receive political information may help with the day-to-day management of stress and anxiety caused by the political environment. One of the most important steps to take is knowing where you are getting your news from. Finding trusted and reputable sources may be a good first step in managing the range of information available to us. Setting measurable boundaries can also be a useful skill with regards to news. Being mindful of the amount of time you spend consuming political information is important, and should be combined with the practice of relying on trusted sources. Healthy coping skills : now, more than ever, it is crucial to partake in activities that bring us joy. Not only does engaging in positive activities help our overall well-being, but they also provide us with an opportunity to break the cycle of worrying about politics. If you have been experiencing increased stress or negativity in your life, invest time doing things that bring you a sense of pleasure. Be outside, get active, explore creative outlets, or spend time with others who agree to intentionally setting politics aside for a while. Connections with others: seeking out support can make a big difference in our lives, especially when we are facing the consequences of today’s political climate. By investing in safe and respectful relationships, we can help ourselves and others. A generous number of psychological theorists maintain that relationships are a core part of what makes us human. We are social creatures who seek out connections with other people, and Consider professional services : There is no shame in admitting that the political climate of the US has had a negative effect on your well-being. Whether you are experiencing increased anxiety, disruptions in relationships, or life changes as a result of political action, a professional mental health provider may be able to help. Speaking to a professional who operates from a perspective of cultural humility gives you a safe outlet to voice your opinions free of judgement, may provide you with healthy coping skills, and can help you manage the repercussions of political turmoil. Advocacy: A big issue people are facing right now is the feeling of being out of control. If you have found yourself asking, what can I do? You may consider becoming involved in advocacy. Advocacy requires action, but there are so many different ways it can look. Calling your local representatives, finding and engaging in subgroups within your community, signing petitions, and more. This will give you the ability to take back some of the power if you feel you have lost it. To end this the same way we began: you are not alone. While everyone’s experience is unique to their own life and environment, thousands of people feel the weight of politics every day. There can be real effects of the political environment on our well-being, but there are steps and decisions that you can take to improve your quality of life. And don’t be afraid to reach out to those who support you – including professionals who may be able to help you navigate this tricky world we live in. Additional read you may find useful: Understand how other people think: A theory of worldviews. The Healing Point, PLLC will be offering a virtual support group for those impacted by the political climate. Please complete this form for more information Resources: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/navigating-high-functioning-mental-health-conditions/202501/when-politics-and-the-mind-collide https://anxietyspecialistsofstl.com/politics-and-your-mental-health-finding-balance/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/things-to-consider/202403/addressing-political-anxiety-in-psychotherapy https://www.apa.org/monitor/2024/10/managing-political-stress Hoyt, L. T., Zeiders, K. H., Chaku, N., Toomey. R. B., & Nair, R. L. (2018). Young adults’ psychological and physiological reactions to the 2016 U.S. presidential election. Psychoneuroendocrinology, 92, 162-169. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psyneuen.2018.03.011 Pester, D. A., Jones, L. K., & Talib. Z. (2023). Social determinants of mental health: Informing counseling practice and professional identity. Journal of Counseling & Development, 99(4), 392-401. DOI: 10.1002/jcad.12473

In recent years, the relationship between the gut and the brain has garnered significant attention from researchers and health enthusiasts alike. This connection, known as the gut-brain axis, refers to the complex communication network that links the gastrointestinal system with the central nervous system. Emerging studies suggest that this interplay plays a crucial role in our overall health, influencing everything from mood to cognitive function. Let’s dive deeper into how this intricate relationship works and what it means for our well-being. What is the Gut-Brain Axis? The gut-brain axis is a bidirectional communication system that involves neural, hormonal, and immunological signaling between the gut and the brain. This connection comprises various pathways, including the vagus nerve, the enteric nervous system (often referred to as the "second brain"), and the gut microbiota. Together, these components facilitate a dialogue that affects both mental and physical health. The Role of the Gut Microbiota : Our intestines host trillions of microorganisms, collectively known as the gut microbiota. These microbes play a crucial role in digestion, metabolism, and even the immune system. Recent studies have indicated that they also influence brain function and behavior. A balanced gut microbiome is essential for maintaining this communication line. Neural Pathways : The vagus nerve is the primary conduit for signals between the gut and the brain. It transmits information about the state of the gut, including the presence of nutrients or potential threats. This nerve also plays a role in regulating mood and emotional responses, highlighting its significance in the gut-brain connection. Hormonal Signaling : The gut produces various hormones that can impact brain function. For instance, ghrelin, often referred to as the “hunger hormone,” can influence mood and cognitive performance. Conversely, hormones like serotonin, which is predominantly produced in the gut, can affect emotional well-being and stress response. Immune Responses : The gut is home to a large portion of the body’s immune system. Inflammation in the gut can trigger systemic responses, affecting brain health and contributing to conditions such as depression and anxiety. This inflammatory pathway underscores the importance of gut health in maintaining mental wellness. The Influence of Gut Health on Mental Health Research has shown that a healthy gut microbiome can positively influence mental health. Studies have linked imbalances in gut bacteria to conditions such as anxiety, depression, and even neurodegenerative diseases. Here are some key findings that illustrate this connection: Depression and Anxiety : Several studies suggest that individuals with anxiety and depression often have altered gut microbiota compared to those without these conditions. Some probiotics have been shown to alleviate symptoms of anxiety and depression, indicating that restoring gut balance can improve mental health. Cognitive Function : The gut-brain axis may also play a role in cognitive decline. Research indicates that individuals with a healthier gut microbiome tend to perform better on cognitive tasks. Conversely, dysbiosis (an imbalance in gut bacteria) has been linked to conditions like Alzheimer’s disease. Stress Response : The gut microbiota may influence how we respond to stress. For instance, certain probiotics can help modulate the body’s stress response, potentially lowering levels of cortisol, the stress hormone. This connection emphasizes the importance of maintaining a balanced microbiome for emotional resilience. Dietary Factors and the Gut-Brain Connection Our diet plays a pivotal role in shaping the gut microbiome, which in turn affects the gut-brain axis. Here are some dietary strategies to promote a healthy gut and, consequently, a healthier brain: Eat a Diverse Range of Foods : A varied diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins can foster a diverse microbiome, promoting gut health and improving mental wellness. Incorporate Fermented Foods : Foods like yogurt, kefir, sauerkraut, and kimchi are rich in probiotics, which can help maintain a healthy gut flora. Regular consumption of these foods may enhance mood and cognitive function. Prioritize Fiber : Fiber-rich foods, such as legumes, nuts, seeds, and whole grains, act as prebiotics, providing nourishment for beneficial gut bacteria. A high-fiber diet can lead to improved gut health and better emotional regulation. Limit Processed Foods : Diets high in sugar and processed foods can disrupt the balance of gut bacteria, potentially leading to inflammation and negatively affecting mental health. Reducing these foods can be beneficial for both gut and brain health. The Future of Gut-Brain Research The gut-brain axis is a rapidly evolving field of study, with researchers continuously uncovering new insights into its complexities. Future research may lead to the development of targeted probiotics or dietary interventions tailored to individual needs, potentially revolutionizing mental health treatment. Moreover, the implications of gut-brain research extend beyond mental health. Understanding this axis could provide insights into various conditions, including obesity, diabetes, and autoimmune diseases. As we learn more about the interplay between gut health and overall wellness, it’s clear that nurturing our gut may be one of the keys to achieving better health outcomes. The gut-brain axis is a captivating example of how interconnected our body systems are. By understanding this relationship, we can make informed choices to promote not only gut health but also mental and emotional well-being. Whether through dietary changes, lifestyle adjustments, or further research, the potential to harness the gut-brain connection holds promise for improving our overall quality of life. So, the next time you think about what to eat, remember that your choices may be influencing not just your body, but your mind as well.

1. Avoid Caffeine, Alcohol, and Nicotine. Avoid, or at least reduce, your consumption of nicotine and any drinks containing caffeine and alcohol. Caffeine and nicotine are stimulants and so will increase your level of stress rather than reduce it. Alcohol is a depressant when taken in large quantities but acts as a stimulant in smaller quantities. Therefore, using alcohol as a way to alleviate stress is not ultimately helpful. Swap caffeinated and alcoholic drinks for water, herbal teas, or diluted natural fruit juices and aim to keep yourself hydrated as this will enable your body to cope better with stress. You should also aim to avoid or reduce your intake of refined sugars  - they are contained in many manufactured foods (even in savory foods such as salad dressings and bread) and can cause energy crashes which may lead you to feel tired and irritable. In general, try to eat a healthy, well-balanced and nutritious diet. Stress can have an impact on your physiological, emotional, and spiritual well-being. 2. Indulge in Physical Activity Stressful situations increase the level of stress hormones such as adrenaline and cortisol in your body. These are the “fight or flight” hormones that evolution has hard-wired into our brains and which are designed to protect us from immediate bodily harm when we are under threat.  However, stress in the modern age is rarely remedied by a fight or flight response, and so physical exercise can be used as a surrogate to metabolize the excessive stress hormones and restore your body and mind to a calmer, more relaxed state. When you feel stressed and tense, go for a brisk walk in fresh air.  Try to incorporate some physical activity into your daily routine on a regular basis, either before or after work, or at lunchtime.  Regular physical activity will also improve the quality of your sleep.                                                                                3. Get More Sleep A lack of sleep is a significant cause of stress. Unfortunately, though, stress also interrupts our sleep as thoughts keep whirling through our heads, stopping us from relaxing enough to fall asleep. Rather than relying on medication, your aim should be to maximize your relaxation before going to sleep.  Make sure that your bedroom is a tranquil oasis with no reminders of the things that cause you stress.  Avoid caffeine during the evening, as well as excessive alcohol if you know that this leads to disturbed sleep. Stop doing any mentally demanding work several hours before going to bed so that you give your brain time to calm down. Try taking a warm bath or reading a calming, undemanding book for a few minutes to relax your body, tire your eyes and help you forget about the things that worry you. You should also aim to go to bed at roughly the same time each day so that your mind and body get used to a predictable bedtime routine. 4. Try Relaxation Techniques Each day, try to relax with a stress reduction technique.  There are many tried and tested ways to reduce stress so try a few and see what works best for you. For example, try self-hypnosis, which is very easy and can be done anywhere, even at your desk or in the car. One very simple technique is to focus on a word or phrase that has a positive meaning to you. Words such as "calm" "love" and "peace" work well, or you could think of a self-affirming mantra such as “I deserve calm in my life” or “Grant me serenity”.  Focus on your chosen word or phrase; if you find your mind has wandered or you become aware of intrusive thoughts entering your mind, simply disregard them and return your focus to the chosen word or phrase. If you find yourself becoming tense again later, simply silently repeat your word or phrase. Don't worry if you find it difficult to relax at first. Relaxation is a skill that needs to be learned and will improve with practice. 5. Talk to Someone Just talking to someone about how you feel can be helpful. Talking can work by either distracting you from your stressful thoughts or releasing some of the built-up tension by discussing it.  Stress can cloud your judgement and prevent you from seeing things clearly. Talking things through with a friend, work colleague, or even a trained professional, can help you find solutions to your stress and put your problems into perspective. Life Coaching or Counseling are the best avenues for talking through your thoughts and feelings because your support will be from a non-bias professional. 6. Keep a Stress Diary Keeping a stress diary for a few weeks is an effective stress management tool as it will help you become more aware of the situations which cause you to become stressed. Note down the date, time and place of each stressful episode, and note what you were doing, who you were with, and how you felt both physically and emotionally.  Give each stressful episode a stress rating (on, say, a 1-10 scale) and use the diary to understand what triggers your stress and how effective you are in stressful situations.  This will enable you to avoid stressful situations and develop better coping mechanisms. 7. Take Control Stress can be triggered by a problem that may on the surface seem impossible to solve. Learning how to find solutions to your problems will help you feel more in control thereby lowering your level of stress. One problem-solving technique involves writing down the problem and coming up with as many possible solutions as you can. Decide on the good and bad points of each one and select the best solution. Write down each step that you need to take as part of the solution: what will be done, how will it be done, when will it be done, who is involved and where will it take place 8. Manage Your Time At times, we all feel overburdened by our 'To Do' list and this is a common cause of stress. Accept that you can not do everything at once and start to prioritise and diarise your tasks. Make a list of all the things that you need to do and list them in order of genuine priority. Note what tasks you need to do personally and what can be delegated to others to do. Record which tasks need to be done immediately, in the next week, in the next month, or when time allows. By editing what might have started out as an overwhelming and unmanageable task list, you can break it down into a series of smaller, more manageable tasks spread out over a longer time frame, with some tasks removed from the list entirely through delegation. Remember as well to create buffer times to deal with unexpected and emergency tasks, and to include time for your own relaxation and well-being. 9. Learn to Say ‘No’ A common cause of stress is having too much to do and too little time in which to do it.  And yet in this situation, many people will still agree to take on additional responsibility.  Learning to say “No” to additional or unimportant requests will help to reduce your level of stress, and may also help you develop more self-confidence. To learn to say “No”, you need to understand why you find it difficult.  Many people find it hard to say “No” because they want to help and are trying to be nice and to be liked.  For others, it is a fear of conflict, rejection or missed opportunities.  Remember that these barriers to saying “No” are all self-created. You might feel reluctant to respond to a request with a straight “No”, at least at first.  Instead think of some pre-prepared phrases to let other people down more gently.  Practice saying phrases such as: “I am sorry but I can’t commit to this as I have other priorities at the moment.”                           “Now is not a good time as I’m in the middle of something.  Why don’t you ask me again at….?” “I’d love to do this, but …” 10. Rest If You Are Ill If you are feeling unwell, do not feel that you must carry on regardless. Allowing your brain and body the time to rest, relax, and recuperate will not only promote feeling better quicker, but it will help avoid further illness or injury by pushing your body harder than it is able to go.   Contact the coaches at The Healing Point today to come up with your own personalized plan for living more stress-free moments for a healthier life.